Dissecting the Life Coach Phenomenon

Posted on 13-01-2010 | By: admin | 

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All coaching is, is taking a player where he can’t take himself.

Bill McCartney

Life Coaching is not new.

Life Coaching as a profession started in the 1980s. Then, it catered more to executives or managers. Now, this profession has developed to cover a lot of areas from helping people choose the right career options to managing difficult personal or professional relationships.

But what is coaching all about?

As per The International Coach Federation (ICF):

“Coaching is an on-going partnership that helps clients produce fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Through the process of coaching, clients deepen their learning, improve their performance, and enhance their quality of life. Beginning with the clients’ desires, coaching uses reporting, exploring, and a consistent commitment to move the client forward. Coaching accelerates the clients’ progress by providing greater focus and awareness of choice. Coaching concentrates on where clients are today and what they are willing to do to get where they want to be tomorrow.”

If this was too much to grasp, let’s simplify.

Coaching involves a professional partnership between a coach and the client. Coaches listen to their client’s problems or concerns, and then provide coaching through which the client determines what steps to take to overcome his or her problems and move ahead.

Coaches do not give advice, nor do they offer therapy. They simply act like a catalyst to help people achieve individual goals.

Through Life Coaching people live a better life as they get help in making the right moves, which they are not able to make on their own.

This does not mean that no one can work out things on their own. It rather means the opposite.

Everyone has some limitations, which directly or indirectly affect a number of areas in his or her life or how he or she looks at different situations in life.

These limitations or weaknesses, whether mental, emotional or psychological, create barriers and hold up personal development.

This is when a Life Coach comes in. The process of coaching helps people break those barriers themselves and pave the way to achieving their goals.

A number of people correlate the work of a Life Coach to that of a psychologist. That’s not the same.

While a psychologist focuses on analyzing your past actions and getting to the root of the problem, a Life Coach concentrates on helping you to frame the right steps in future to achieve your individual goal.

A psychologist might offer therapy and advice. A Life Coach does not.

A very good analogy is that of a Personal Fitness Trainer.

Consider you are joining a gym. Your fitness trainer will first ask you what you want to achieve. Whether you want to

Lose weight?

Lose fat?

Build muscles?

Build endurance?

Increase stamina?

The trainer will then see where you stand now in relation to your goal.

For example, if you want to trim down body fat, you will be asked to take a body fat composition test to measure the current body fat level. You may have to take a fitness test and may be asked about present eating habits. All this is a part of helping you get nearer to your goal.

The fitness trainer will first establish standards for you as to how much fat you intend to lose and over what period of time. It is based on all this that he designs a plan of action for you to reach your goal.

Having done this, he also supplies you with the required backing and support in the form of constant encouragement and motivation.

There may be many people who look towards reducing weight. But what they lack is the willpower and confidence to keep trying.

The trainer’s job is to guide them through the difficult path towards their goal. He has to help the people achieve their goals more quickly and more effectively than if they tried by themselves.

This is what a Life Coach also does for you.

Here is a real life example.

Michelle and Roderick were married and leading a happy life together. Both of them were employed. Roderick was not very content with his job. He was looking for better opportunities, and as it just so happened, he got an offer from an overseas firm. The position was just what he wanted. It was time for him to make a decision.

If he took the job he would be happy career-wise, but leading separate lives, would their marriage survive? He could not possibly be selfish to ask Michelle to leave her job. And if he let go of the new job offer, he would feel guilty of having given up a great chance. Now this is what we call a fix!

What would you do if you were in Roderick’s place?

Very difficult to decide, isn’t it?

A Life Coach enters a person’s life to help him live it better. Every person has problems. It may be a lack of confidence for someone, weak communication skills for another, or a lost career for someone else or even a problem with relationships.

The areas of life a coach can work on are:

1. Confidence and Self-esteem

- Feel good about yourself

- Have no room for self-doubt

- Get to know new people and be confident

- Speak confidently in front of groups

2. Career

- Know which job is right for you

- Move on to a better job

- Perform better on the job

- Earn a promotion

- Start your own business

3. Relationships

- Be a good listener

- Work through problems with your partner

- Sail smoothly through tough times

- Build stronger bonds

4. Communication

- How to communicate with anyone

- Talking to strangers

- How to get your point across effectively

5. Health / losing weight

- Improve your health

- Reduce stress

- Follow a healthy eating pattern

- Sticking to an exercise plan

6. Dreams and achievement

- Set firm goals

- Work out what you want from life

- Provide direction and purpose

- Have more fun

- Have more energy and always be ready for more

7. Money/Finance

- Earn more money

- Save more money

- Work out budgets and follow them

8. Getting what you want in life

- Becoming more organized

- Getting rid of barriers and negative thinking

- Manage your time more effectively

- Discover your values in life

- Clear the clutter that you are engulfed in

- How to stay focused

It covers almost everything that life is about, as you might have noticed.

The Role of a Life Coach

A Life Coach doesn’t spoon-feed; he instructs. He is a guide, a medium to finding solutions. He is a motivational figure who coaches a client towards winning ultimate success.

A Life Coach challenges, questions, and nudges a person forward so that all inner capabilities can be unlocked.

Anytime in life, when you feel that you are trudging on pointlessly, Life Coaching will help you sit back and analyze what went wrong and where you need to make amendments.

Life Coaching, in that sense, provides a client with self-awareness, focus and accountability.

A Life Coach is a comrade, a shoulder to cry on, a guide, a philosopher, a parasol on a rainy day, a lifeboat and a cheerleader. He or she helps to make choices, polishes communication skills, and most significantly acts as a route map to finding all that a client wanted in his or her life

A point to remember is a Life Coach does not promise that his or her client will fulfill dreams and achieve whatever he or she wants to.

A Life Coach helps a client:

-understand and analyze what exactly his or her real dream or goal is

-identify inner strengths and potential in achieving the same

-recognize weaknesses that creates obstacles in moving ahead to accomplish goals

and then provides coaching so that the client comes out with the right action plan to get what he wants.

How does coaching work?

-Well, coaching can be conducted through a number of ways including sessions in person, on the telephone, using email, group coaching in person, and group coaching through the telephone. (teleclass)

No matter what method is used the approach is the same.

During each coaching session the coach and the client will discuss and explore the clients’ journey including their goals, wins, challenges, and opportunities, as well as develop fieldwork for the coming week.

Fieldwork isn’t like the homework you were assigned in school.

It consists of action steps to move you closer toward your goals and dreams.

The client brings the agenda and the coach brings the coaching skills to create a partnership that moves the client forward.

The client calls the coach at their scheduled time each week. The structure of coaching is flexible and can be designed with the client in a way that meets their individual needs and schedule.

The basic design consists of:

* 30 minute complementary “is this for you” session?

* An initial one-hour session to create a coaching strategy (in-person or by phone)

* Initial assessment to evaluate work and life needs and establish goals.

* Regular on-going coaching sessions (typically by phone/email)

* Exercises to increase self-awareness, encourage creative thinking, and develop practical skills.

* Full confidentiality

* Quartlery evaluation and review, along with strategies for ongoing support.

Coaching sessions are usually scheduled weekly, lasting from a half-hour to an hour.

Together, you will define the length and frequency that best supports the client. Sessions may be focused on one specific goal or challenge that the client is facing, or on a much broader set of personal or professional issues.

ife coaching truly is a phenomenon that is here to stay. It is the best way for a person to continue their evolution and make quantum leaps in the success of their life.


Life,The Way You See It

Posted on 13-01-2010 | By: admin | 

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Upon reading the newspaper for the past two weeks, i noticed the increase in the number of suicide cases, attempted murdering and more. What does it imply? Does it means that as we grow both physically and mentally, we become more fragile. Everyone goes through the same stage in life,just that everyone face a different form of it. Why do this group of people fall? This is the stigma of the youth. Let’s break down the process and find out what really went wrong.

1. Problem surfaced

2. Concealing

3. Pressure built-up

4. The end

Problem surface

In life,it is impossible to have no problem surfacing in our life. As our mind grows, it is undeniable that we think much more and create problem for ourselves. Things that do not matter years ago, become unsolvable problems. It is only when we face the problems bravely, may the problems be solved. Many a time, problems are not really “problem”, it is decision in disguise. When we made the right choice, the problem is solved. Even if we do make a wrong choice, it is a lesson learnt and not considered as a failure. When we avoid making decision it lead to the next stage, concealing.

Concealing

As the name suggested, hide the problem. Many choose to hide the problem, deceiving themselves. When they hid the problem, they thought the problem is not there anymore, but subconsciously the problem remains and may continue to become worse. They think by forgetting the problem means the problem is solved. This will make the matter worst. As they continues to lead their everyday life, leaving the problem unsolved. It’s just like the snowball rolling down the mountain, it gets bigger and bigger. Rolling on to the next stage.

Pressure built-up

There will be the time when they cannot continues to deceive themselves. This is when they had to face the problem yet again, but this time round, in a worst condition. As all of us know, one problem leads to another. By the time they are willing to stand up to the problem, it might be too late. Be what is left might not be the end. When they snap out of their comfort zone and face the problem, then they will be free from it.In their case, it is different. They did not have the courage to face a smaller problem, will they have the courage to face something bigger? The answer is obviously no in most case. The final stage..

The end

As the title suggested. The final method to solve their problem. Many chose this method over the rest even though they know it should not even be on the last of their list. I have to highlight, the problem does not solve itself even when the main lead is dead. It may be brought over to the innocents or their family member. In most case, most of the dead’s family have to face not only the problem but the grief of losing a loved one.

I wrote this article,not to mock at anyone but to bring up the awareness of the current situation. Before i end this post, what i want to say is my condolence.


Relationship Problems of Any Magnitude Resolved at Once With One Effective Strategy

Posted on 10-01-2010 | By: admin | 

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Relationship problems can be unsettling for many couples, irrespective of their magnitude. It is worthwhile that couples talk about these problems as soon as they occur. This helps people resolve problems at an earlier phase. However, this should be done sensitively or else the situation could get out of control. Wedding is an important event in every individual’s life. Problems related to it may crop up soon after marriage or much later. If relationship problems are not dealt with over time, they may lead to split-up. When marriage problems take place, couples are left with similar feelings of sorrow, disappointment and disenchantment.

It is essential for couples to make out and accept a problem early on. In most cases, couples may refute the existence of any kind of problem. This puts off the imperative step of dealing with a problem at its origin. Afterward, insignificant squabbling and arguments conclude in bigger problems, making it very complicated to deal with several issues all right away. Relationship problems are universal and should be resolved one at a time to ensure long-standing harmony.

It is important to note that all relationship problems can’t be solved. Couples need to have love, belief, mutual understanding, patience and admiration for each other and truthfully want the problem to be solved. Some people allow their marriage problems to grow leading to total incongruity and ultimately break up between the couple.

The Relationship Saver authored by Radomir Samardzic is just 14 pages long. It takes most people only 20 minutes to read. So why did he write such a brief relationship repair manual and more significantly, how can something so diminutive possibly help you?

As you know, there are hundreds of relationship gurus out there and hundreds of books promising to restore your relationship. Most of them contain chapters with titles like “99 different ways to save your relationship.” But if just one of them actually worked, what need is there for the other 98?

That’s where The Relationship Saver stands alone. It doesn’t bombard you with a bunch of ideas that might help. It cuts away all the vague things and concentrates on one strategy based on proven principles. Follow the simple, results-based strategy inside and you can repair your relationship problems, no matter how dire the situation. Go to RelationshipSaver.org to download the e-book at a reasonable price and get the solution of all your problems quickly and easily.


4 Simple Steps to Solving Every Problem

Posted on 08-01-2010 | By: admin | 

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What is a “problem?” We tend to think of problems as things we’d rather ignore, go away, or simply not have in the first place!

Or we tend to think, “If I just had more money, then I wouldn’t have any more problems” or “If only I could find the right person to be with, then all my problems would go away…” Or we look at famous people or celebrities on TV, and say, “Boy, I bet THEY don’t have any problems…”

The fact is, however, that no matter how much money we have, who we’re with, what job we do, how famous we are, or even how happy we are, there are always problems in our lives. In fact, many people mistakenly believe that “happiness” means “the absence of problems.”

But life, in a sense, is a series of always-evolving problems. Think about it. Let’s say you’re broke. That means your problems include: “How am I going to pay my bills? How can I make more money? How am I going to get out of this mess?”

Let’s say you solve those problems and you’re making some money. Now your problems might be: “How am I going to pay my increased taxes? What kind of car should I get? How can I make more money?”

And let’s say you manage to solve these problems. What might your problems be now? “Should I get a new home or stay here? Which stock should I invest in? How can I make more money?” (Yes, that last question seems to stay with us no matter how much we’re making!)

Do you see what I mean? All of life really comes down to solving problems.

But, if you think that the only way you’re going to be happy is if you don’t have any problems, that means you’ve set up your life so you can’t be happy. Therefore, if your strategy for “being happy” is “to have no problems,” you’re setting yourself up for inevitable failure, unhappiness and frustration.

Does this mean we should just accept all of life’s problems and not do anything to solve them? No way!

We just need to realize that life itself is a series of problems and growth in life means moving from one set of problems to a BETTER set of problems.

This is neither a pessimistic nor fatalistic way of looking at life, because once you realize this basic truth, you can use the method below to solve any problem you’ll ever face for the rest of your life.

And here it is, in four simple steps:

Step One: Sit down and face the problem.

Step Two: Write down every question associated with the problem that comes to your mind.

Step Three: Go and do something else.

Step Four: Let the answer come to you (and then thank your subconscious mind for providing an answer you hadn’t thought of before).


Stepped or Level Premiums for Life Insurance?

Posted on 08-01-2010 | By: admin | 

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Stepped or Level Premiums for Life Insurance?

When looking for the right Life Insurance policy within Australia, it is important to consider which premium structure you would like to choose. Stepped premiums are great in the short term, though will end up costing you a lot more in the longer term.

“When discussing with clients, I always ask for how long they see themselves needing life insurances and income protection.” says Peter Kaleta Principal Adviser from Life Shield. ”If the answer is ‘long term’ (greater than 5-10 years), then it is worth considering a level premium structure for their new policy.”

Normally you are only told about stepped premiums as these are the cheaper option, at least initially and therefore is easier for the broker to ’make the sale’. Stepped premiums are re-rated each year at renewal as per the client’s age and therefore the cost goes up. The older you get, the higher the increase is. The problem here is, that once you are in your fifties and even sixties, the cost of your insurance becomes so high that often clients are forced to either reduce their benefit or cancel the cover all together. This potentially leaves the client without the required cover at a time when they need it most.

Level premiums do not have age based increases and therefore do not have the dramatic increases in cost over time. In fact, the only increases in cost that you will have on your policy are due to CPI (Consumer Price Index – linked to inflation of between 3-5% pa) (and the sum insured will also increase each year by this amount) or general rate increases imposed by the insurer.

Level premiums give you the certainty of knowing what you will pay for your insurances up to age 65 in most cases. Once you are of age 65, the premium will revert to a stepped structure and therefore begin to increase each year.

As an example, a male aged 40 with $100,000 of life insurance will pay approximately $15 per month (depending on which company is chosen) initially and a total spend up to age 65 of almost $15,000. On the level premium structure the same person will spend initially $24 per month however up to age 65 the total cost is less than half at $7,000.

Initially there is the cash flow issue as you will be paying more than you need to, however in the longer term the cost of a level premiums structure will be well below what you would on a stepped premium.  

More information – visit www.lifeshield.com.au


How Your Credit History and Credit Score Impacts Your Life

Posted on 08-01-2010 | By: admin | 

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Your credit history and credit score have a major impact on your life. A credit history follows you no matter where you live, work, do your banking or apply for credit cards or loans. A credit score varies in range from 300 to 900. The national average for a credit score varies, but is usually around 692, says Experian Information Solutions, Inc. Learn more about what impacts a credit score, the short-term and long-term effects of a credit history and ways to improve a credit score.

What Impacts a Credit Score

Many events and activities impact a credit score. Approximately 35 percent of a credit score concerns payment history. Outstanding debt makes up 30 percent of the credit score. The credit history length comprises 15 percent. Ten percent of a credit score is based on inquiries. The last ten percent of a credit score concerns types of credit. Traditionally, information from credit card companies and lenders made up most of the information that impacted a credit score. More frequently, however, cell phone carriers, energy companies and other service providers now report payment information to the credit reporting agencies.

Short-term and Long-Term Effects of Credit Scores

A credit score has a number of short and long-term effects on your life. Getting denied for low interest credit cards or loans and not getting the best loan rates are common short-term effects of having problems in a credit history. A problematic credit score can also have a number of long-term effects on your life. Problems in a credit history like bankruptcies, judgments or collections don’t just go away. Hiring companies, landlords and insurance companies are just a few of the companies using credit histories or credit scores to determine eligibility.

Ways to Improve a Credit Score and Establish Credit History

There are a number of ways to improve a credit score and to establish a solid credit history. A free credit report is available to everyone annually and can be helpful for pinpointing mistakes or suspicious activities. A solid credit monitoring program includes ideas for ways to improve a credit score. A “poor credit” credit can help establish a solid credit history. Prepaid phone cards can also help improve a credit score.


Life Happiness is Depends on Your Life Goal

Posted on 05-01-2010 | By: admin | 

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There are a lot of books talking about how to be happy. It seems like everybody is looking for happiness. Somebody reads a lot of books just to look for happiness in their life. It is hardly to find a book which relates your happiness with your life goal.

 

Somebody does not know which education course is good for them. Somebody does not know which shirt or dress to choose. Somebody even does not know what to choose for lunch. Somebody likes to ask for other opinion on their own problem. And their life keeps repeating all these kind of things without thinking of solving them. Why people feel difficult to make a simple decision? People thought that this suppose to be a life for an ordinary human being?

 

Life is actually very simple. It is all depends on your life goal. If you don’t have a life goal or not clear about your life goal, your life will be not simple anymore, always facing some difficulties and unhappy things. If you don’t know which course is suitable for you, you are not clear about your life goal. If you ask for advice( not referring to knowledge ) from others on your own life, you are not clear about your life goal.

 

I strongly believe that, when you don’t know which shirt should be worn today, you should ask yourselves what is your life goal. When you feel angry with somebody, you should ask yourselves what is your life goal. When you worry about what will be your examination result, you should ask yourselves what is your life goal. We should be responsible on our own emotion. If you think you are in some kind of emotion which you don’t like, then you should ask yourselves what is wrong with you. Your life goal is not OK? Or even worst, you don’t have one clear goal.

 

Why we may allow one same problem to be happened again? Why don’t we try to solve it once for our life? We thought problem is normal for an ordinary human being? We thought life suppose to be filled by many unhappy events/things? We seems like not responsible on our emotion.  

 

If we have set up our life goal, we should be responsible on all the consequences of it, including our emotion. If we can’t accept such consequences, then we suppose to adjust the goal. The goal could makes our life full of excitement. The goal could makes us always in trouble. The goal could makes our life simple and happy. What kind of life you want all depends on your goal. Please don’t blaim that unhappy is normal for human being. Asking for advice for our own life is really ridiculous. How people may helps if people does not know about your life goal and only you are clear about your own life goal. Somebody even supplies advice base on their own life goal, instead of yours. They thought if they solve the problem using this way you should also use the same way.

  

Let say you are going to select an education course for your university, and there are course A and course B infront of you. Please ask yourselves, if you choose course A, are you going towards your goal? If you choose course B, are you going towards your goal? If both courses allowing you to achieve your goal, then simply choose one. If only course A allowing you to achieve your goal, then choose course A. If both courses are not allowing you to achieve your goal, then looks for the course which allows you to achieve your goal. What is so difficult? The difficult part is, if we don’t have a life goal. If so, nobody can helps you. You can’t ask somebody on how to solve your problem. The existence of the problem is coming from you. It is not coming from the environment. Of course there are a lot of people solving the course problem through another method. They try to find out which course is more popular or which course may makes them earn more money in future. These kind of consideration is no longer coming from yourselves( internal factor ). It is an external factor. If you got a wrong information, found it after joining the course and feel angry on it, what is the cause of your anger? It is caused by yourselves, not caused by the person who gave you the information. At the time you use this kind of method in choosing your course, you should be aware of this kind of risk and accept all the consequences.

 

Happiness is a personal thing. So in doing whatever job, making whartever decision, we should do it ourselves and not letting other to do it for us. We have to make the decision base on what we want for our life. We can’t( just my suggestion ) let other to decide our happiness. If you allow other to decide it for you, then you have to accept the consequences and be happy with whatever you will be facing. It is hardly to find a person who let other to control their life and still feel very happy on their life.

 

The main factor to differentiate adults with kids is, adults could take responsibility and knowing very well about the consequences but kids could not. If we look around, we may find a lot of people with an adult body who can’t take responsibility and don’t know or don’t care about the consequences. Especially of they can’t responsible on their own emotion. Our emotion is actually the result of our choice.

 

Our life goal is our choice. We should think deeply to find a best goal for ourselves. We are having 100% of the power to choose our own life goal base on our interest and what we want for our life. After decided the goal, we live according to our goal. Whatever happened after that are affecting our emotion. So the emotion is the result of our life goal. The emotion is the result of our own choice.  


Hypnosis Therapy: Relieving Lifes Problems With Hypnosis

Posted on 05-01-2010 | By: admin | 

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Hypnosis therapy has been used for a long time now in order to treat a wide variety of psychological conditions. Contrary to popular perception, hypnosis has nothing to do with black magic or anything that is even remotely supernatural. It is in fact a science by itself and helps in creating a sense of control on their lives in people. An increasing number of people are getting benefited from hypnosis these days, thanks to its rising popularity, courtesy the internet.

Hypnosis therapy involves giving powerful suggestions to a person when he or she is in a trance like state. Any person in a hypnotized state is relaxed with the mind being extremely attentive. This kind of mental situation is something similar to the one that is induced by various meditative techniques. During this trance like state, direct access to any person’s powerful conscious mind is permitted.

Hypnosis therapy is used in treating a wide variety of psychological problems these days. Many bad habits including smoking and alcohol addiction can also be treated using hypnosis. In fact millions of people around the world use hypnosis in order to quit smoking. Powerful messages against smoking can be given to a smoker’s subconscious mind during a hypnotized state. These powerful messages get embedded in their mind and they would then lose the urge to smoke this way. While in some instances a single session of hypnosis may be all that is needed in order to quit smoking, it could also take several sessions in some other cases. Many cases of alcohol addiction are also treated similarly using hypnosis.

Hypnosis therapy is also used in the treatment of other psychological problems including, anxiety, tension, fear, depression and phobias. People have been known to achieve increased self-confidence after undergoing this therapy. There are many medical conditions too in which this therapy is used. For instance patients suffering from pain as a result of radiation or surgery are often treated using hypnosis, which helps in giving them relief. With so many benefits to be accrued, it is no wonder that hypnosis is increasingly becoming popular these days.

While visiting an experienced hypnotist is the best way to experience the benefits of hypnosis therapy, these days there are also many other self-hypnosis aids available. The market is for instance flooded with many compact discs on the subject, using which you can hypnotize yourself and gain several benefits. A few sessions of hypnosis can bring about a positive change in your life and boost your self-esteem immensely.


Is There Life After Work or Is Work the Most Interesting Thing in My Life?

Posted on 03-01-2010 | By: admin | 

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There is an old quandary that goes something like “do you live to work or work to live?”

A typical life-work evolution may go something like this: the first choice is to work or not to work; the second choice, often years later, is to work for another or to work for oneself; finally, when income is sufficient to meet needs, does work really fit in with the rest of one’s life?

Most people, at least those of us that do not have trust funds, have to face these questions. How we make these decisions not only influences finances but ultimately a much bigger question – is my life satisfying and meaningful?

Unfortunately many of us only ask the financial questions – how can we maximize income to increase assets? Today’s younger people, at least the non-wealthy ones, see this as the primary question to be resolved.

The choices we make as a younger person determine the initial direction our lives take. Many younger people, especially those choosing professions, make their choices based on income and income potential. Factors such as interest are much less significant.

This is why we see so many doctors and lawyers with frowns – they did it for the money. They are not really interested in sick people or the nuances of law.

When we follow interests we come closer to achieving meaning and satisfaction. When we stray from interest we may find income but seldom do we find meaning and satisfaction. It may just be in our mind but isn’t perception everything?

Some say that life is cruel, unfair and disgusting. They lead lives of “quiet desperation” and as a consequence became bitter, even though they have amassed personal wealth. On the other hand, those that have followed their interests view their lives as having great meaning and a high degree of satisfaction.

Sure they made mistakes and many ended up with minimal assets and a fixed low income but one can see the smiles and the contentment in their faces.

Personal wealth is not the main factor in their happiness. What is most important to them is they have become masters of their own fate and have not let others or social pressures lead them down paths they really did not want to go.

When one sees an owner, manager or an employee that really loves their work, we also see a happy human being. And almost always a highly productive, contributing individual. In evaluations and reviews contented employees usually respond that they are very interested in what they do and often find high levels of satisfaction.

When asked how they view their future they usually respond that they expect their future to be challenging and interesting. Why not?

When one sees owners, managers and employees that are obviously not happy it’s certain the individuals are in it for the paycheck. They go to work to support themselves and their families and they go only because they have to.

They do not truly enjoy what they do, they get very little satisfaction at work and they are usually unhappy with their compensation. Because they hate what they do they always feel they cannot be paid enough. And as no surprise these individuals have very little fun in their personal lives as well.

Those that dislike their work tend to split their lives in segments. When they ‘punch in’ at work they go on the drone mode. On the other hand, those that love their work see their work and personal lives as extensions of each. They make no artificial distinction because they do not hate their work.

Because they find meaning and satisfaction in their work they often find the same in their personal lives. As Krishnamurti noticed their lives are integrated and not fragmented.

As the pressures of work intrude more into our personal lives we need to ask some important questions: are our work/life problems caused by scheduling and time management or is our work becoming more of a distasteful, though necessary chore? Are we following our interests? Is our work life meaningful or routine?

We humans are complex beings. Just as our personal life influences work so too does work influence our personal life. Maybe we should not look so much to time management to balance the work-life dichotomy. Maybe we should reflect on what truly interests us.

Maybe then we will find out what really makes us tick.


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